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Why You Should Always Prioritize Your Comfort Over Your Partner
Long story short, I’ve been in a long distance relationship for the past 2 years. My partner lives in LA and I was living in Texas. After 6 months, we decided to move in the same city.
I was working at a job I loved. My partner loves his job too but he’s a freelancer and never works at their office.
I thought it was easier for him to move to Texas since he’s always willing to discover new states and that Texas was on his list (and, again, he’s a freelancer, so he can work from wherever he wants). But he didn’t want to move.
So I quit my job, moved to LA and looked for an apartment. My partner didn’t help me that all in that process. After I found an apartment, a job and started to get my shit together, he told me he wanted to break up.
I told him that it was unfair and that it would be good if we tried to work this through since I’ve done a lot of sacrifices for this relationship. He didn’t work out.
I still live in LA though because this place is awesome but I miss Texas so much. I’ll give myself a few years before I can move back to my lovely Texas.
If I had the power to rewind, I think I’d have asked him to move in with me at first since his situation is comfier than mine. If he said no, I’d have broken up with him.
If I have one piece of advice to give someone who’s living the same situation: never overlook your own comfort. Always consider your personal situation over your relationship because ultimately, you’re the first to feel the consequences of your decision. Nothing matter more than you.
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